A lot of women secretly think, "I've never had sex before and never been in a relationship. And can I learn how to use sex toys? This is such a reflective question that the answer is not that easy. While some are afraid they might not be able to feel any pleasure when they finally have sex with their partner, others fear that they might hurt their body.
The truth, though, is that using sex toys to learn more about who you are, and what you like, won’t make you some kind of morally deviant creature. Far from it, in fact, it will increase your knowledge of your own body (and what it needs) by leaps and bounds. Hey, who made the rules that you need to have years of expertise behind you before you're entitled to use sex toys?
Three most popular myths that persist over the years are:
If you're a virgin, stay away from sex toys as they may risk your vagina 'tearing' or being loose, and other complications.
Depending on electric sex toys for your early sexual experiences will make such devices more preferable than the real flesh and blood human touch.
It’s in the same sphere as being a so-called “loose woman.” I don’t think it’s in its own isolated bubble of sexual stigma. For me, the act of using sex toys is just as, if not more, synonymous with being considered a promiscuous girl.
Here’s an interesting fact for you: A 2022 global study conducted by the Japanese company – TENGA – surveyed 12,000 women and discovered some interesting tidbits. The results showed that 82% of people who used sex toys felt they had become more in touch with their own bodies after using them. Furthermore 47% of those who were virgins had used or bought a sex toy. Notably, no instances of here androcentric sexual addictions or examples of such monogamous men not being able to form real romantic couples were!uminated.
So, it's clear that sex toys are just a means to self-discovery and pleasure, like the delectable way tasting ice cream for the first time feels good after a long day. While an occasional spoonful won’t necessarily cause weight gain, it may signal a preference for chocolate flavors or for vanilla.
There are at least three good reasons for sexually active women to play with sex toys, even if the women are already enjoying sex with a partner.
Body awakening: Nerve endings in the female vulva and vagina can range wildly in density and pattern from woman to woman, according to a 2020 online course on sexual medicine from University College London (UCL). And by using sex toys to learn where abouts you are tender in a calm, no pressure environment, you’ll easily be better equppied to help avoid pain and dryness during sexual encounters in the future.
Emotional Preparation: The Basic Fear for women as an unfamiliar virgin is the fear of the unknown. Speaking on a podcast, American sex therapist Emily Morse explained that 70% of the pain women experience during their first time is actually due to anxiety and not knowing what to expect. Do you not know sexual pleasure? You control the speed, the building-up, the intensity, everything, when you use a sex toy for a little me time.
Low Risk: Sex products are generally made of TPE or medical silicone. They are created from the softest, smoothest materials, just like the straps of one of your favorite 00 bra. As long as you use lube and opt for a toy that’s the right fit, you’re unlikely to cause vaginal strain or irritation.
What’s the best first sex toy for beginners?
Kind: You can’t go wrong with a compact vibrator that’s designed for external play.As long as you use lube and opt for a toy that’s the right fit, you’re unlikely to cause vaginal strain or irritation.o get over ourselves!
A lot of women secretly think, "I've never had sex before and never been in a relationship. And can I learn how to use sex toys? This is such a reflective question that the answer is not that easy. While some are afraid they might not be able to feel any pleasure when they finally have sex with their partner, others fear that they might hurt their body.
The truth, though, is that using sex toys to learn more about who you are, and what you like, won’t make you some kind of morally deviant creature. Far from it, in fact, it will increase your knowledge of your own body (and what it needs) by leaps and bounds. Hey, who made the rules that you need to have years of expertise behind you before you're entitled to use sex toys?
Three most popular myths that persist over the years are:
If you're a virgin, stay away from sex toys as they may risk your vagina 'tearing' or being loose, and other complications.
Depending on electric sex toys for your early sexual experiences will make such devices more preferable than the real flesh and blood human touch.
It’s in the same sphere as being a so-called “loose woman.” I don’t think it’s in its own isolated bubble of sexual stigma. For me, the act of using sex toys is just as, if not more, synonymous with being considered a promiscuous girl.
Here’s an interesting fact for you: A 2022 global study conducted by the Japanese company – TENGA – surveyed 12,000 women and discovered some interesting tidbits. The results showed that 82% of people who used sex toys felt they had become more in touch with their own bodies after using them. Furthermore 47% of those who were virgins had used or bought a sex toy. Notably, no instances of here androcentric sexual addictions or examples of such monogamous men not being able to form real romantic couples were!uminated.
So, it's clear that sex toys are just a means to self-discovery and pleasure, like the delectable way tasting ice cream for the first time feels good after a long day. While an occasional spoonful won’t necessarily cause weight gain, it may signal a preference for chocolate flavors or for vanilla.
There are at least three good reasons for sexually active women to play with sex toys, even if the women are already enjoying sex with a partner.
Body awakening: Nerve endings in the female vulva and vagina can range wildly in density and pattern from woman to woman, according to a 2020 online course on sexual medicine from University College London (UCL). And by using sex toys to learn where abouts you are tender in a calm, no pressure environment, you’ll easily be better equppied to help avoid pain and dryness during sexual encounters in the future.
Emotional Preparation: The Basic Fear for women as an unfamiliar virgin is the fear of the unknown. Speaking on a podcast, American sex therapist Emily Morse explained that 70% of the pain women experience during their first time is actually due to anxiety and not knowing what to expect. Do you not know sexual pleasure? You control the speed, the building-up, the intensity, everything, when you use a sex toy for a little me time.
Low Risk: Sex products are generally made of TPE or medical silicone. They are created from the softest, smoothest materials, just like the straps of one of your favorite 00 bra. As long as you use lube and opt for a toy that’s the right fit, you’re unlikely to cause vaginal strain or irritation.
What’s the best first sex toy for beginners?
Kind: You can’t go wrong with a compact vibrator that’s designed for external play. It has a vibrating head and a removable soft sleeve, which means that it offers soft vibration as well and it is cost-effective and multitasking to stimulate your inner and outer erogenous zones.
Material: Choose silicone medical grade over TPE and hard ABS. Don’t forget: Real silicone is supposed to be stretchy and odorless.
Size & Vibration Speed: Don't go for bigger sizes for your first time. (iv) Opt for a sex toy that is 8–10 cm long and 2–2.5 cm in diameter. Newbies should start with low or mid-range sex toys that vibrate at a speed of 3,000 to 6,000 rpm.
Cleaning and disinfecting: Clean your toy with warm water and mild soap after use, air dry, and then store in a protective pouch.
Commonly Asked Questions:
Is it sex toys that will break the hymen? The hymen is situated about 1-2 centimeters inside the vaginal opening. As long as you do not stick anything down there too deep, you probably won't hurt it.
If I use sex toys, will actual sex feel good? Absolutely! Connecting with a real partner provides interaction hormone, and a sensation that toys cannot recreate. Toys should be an addition, not a substitute, for real closeness.
Can orgasms be addictive if they happen frequently? Studies on sexual psychology by New York University have also suggested that receiving the regular vibrations consistently can lead to a desensitization of the user. (The human nervous system does have a "threshold" when it comes to singular sexual stimulation.)
Is it safe to use sex toys while on period? You probably will have no use for them on health grounds, and may not wish to use them then as a result.
What do I do to perform with a sex toy for the first time? Start with a warm bath or shower for 5 minutes to help lubrication and open vessels. Use plenty of water based lube. The preferred pattern is “circle → touch → shallow → deep.” Begin by moving the toy in gentle circles around the outside genitalia before lightly pressing on the clitoris, and — if you’re comfortable doing so — slowly inserting the toy. If you experience any dryness or sensitivity, stop and reapply more lube. Allow uetrine contractions to dissipate after you orgasm before you slowly withdraw and twist your toy.
Above all you should never forget, your body is only yours, and you have the right to be in control of your own pleasure. Don’t let off-hand remarks or unproven prejudices tie you down from enjoying your own body and what you want from it.
