Plenty of people are deeply intrigued by the idea of anal exploration. This is not your average sexual jaunt, full of mystery and a deep societal taboo and misunderstanding. Yet even when someone has the real will to go do this, they might be a little scared: People might be afraid to get dirty or to have the appliance start to loosen or to get some type of infection.
In this post today, we are going to take a look at the fundamental components of how you approach anal exploration, so that your first trip is not only less stressful but filled with peace and tranquillity.
Worried about removing stains while removing sex toys.
Many people are terrified of accidentally “pooping” while using sex toys. The reality is that the anatomy of the intestine is not as superficial or limited as one might expect. Let’s put it like this: As long as you don't use a sex toy that's 10 inches (or even 24 centimeters) long, and you're not suffering from diarrhea, chances are pretty slim you’ll experience visible stains! If anxieties continues have a BM before you go or use a small enema to clean the area just up inside about 2 " this will also reduce any residue.
Concerned about the anus being loose.
With regard to the worry about the anus becoming looser, studies have found that people who have had anal experiences have somewhat lower resting anal pressure than those who haven’t. Unfortunately, this distinction is slight and it is doubtful that it will produce incontinence. The muscles of the anal sphincter that surround the anus have the ability to contract voluntarily. If you pay attention to your personal boundaries (ie, stay away from ramming really big things up there without some prep) then your ass isn't going to spontaneously come apart if you occasionally have a peruse.
Concerns over infection
"Some people are worried that anal play is especially dirty, or that the anus is prone to carrying dirt and bacteria. The anal mucosa is also more fragile than the vaginal mucosa, and thus may be more susceptible to minor abrasions associated with friction. Left unprotected, these little sores can be open invitations for nasty infection. As such, if you are thinking of having anal sex with your partner, both of you should check your health first. If you are with more than one partner or partners that you have not met before, then you need to wear a condom and protect each other.
Steps to Get to Know Your Anus
Step One: Basic Cleaning
It is best to evacuate the bowels and cleanse the anus with warm water. While you are showering, use a soft towel or your hand and rub it gently the skin which is around the anus area. Do not scratch with your fingers, as you may inadvertently harm the fragile mucous membrane. If you want to be more cautious you can then gently inject and expel about 5cms of warm water with a small enema thingy. The fact that always repeating this procedure is recommended: it is better to rinse once or twice than applying the enema too deep or too often.
Step 2: Fully relax the anus.
It is different from vaginal penetration with regard to the fact that the anus is never open and must be opened upon entrance by the penis or a sex toy to being able to have a successful sex. So really, foreplay is super important. Start with a light body rub in general, offer touches, and passionate kisses, and work your way to the area around your anus as you continue to get yourself comfortable. It may be helpful to also use lubricated fingers to draw circles around the anus, which helps the muscles get used to the feeling of being touched. This is not only to make the process of sliding entry less uncomfortable, but will also decrease psychological stress.
Step 3: Use Lubricant.
The anus does not have it's own natural self-lubricating ability in contrast to the vagina; therefore, when engaging in anal intercourse extra lubrication is necessary. Silicone lubes in particular are good because they are slippery for a long time and (at least able to be) worn for anal. Water-based lubricants are also fine, but they tend to dry out faster and you will need to reapply a couple of times during the process. It doesn't matter what kind of lubricant you decide to use, just make sure to use enough so you don't end up pinching pennies; you don't want under-lubricated skin that may cause friction, discomfort, and/or tailored destruction.
Tips
“If you try this combo for the first time, gently explore with a finger with the help of more lube, instead of jumping to anal toys or penetration,” suggests Mintz. It's best to start with smaller sized toys and work your way up as your body gets used to the feeling. Whenever you feel any pain, halt and relax your muscles before you continue any further. After the bathe you can keep yourself under warm water for cleaning purposes and simply tap yourself dry too, you need not use any medicated water or soap to clean at all.
In short: It’s not weird to investigate anal probing. So, unless and until you learn how to do so correctly (which is to say without the shame, embarrassment, or pain, while still enjoying all sorts of sexy feels) you can follow sent directly to your coach now! From basic cleaning and patient comfort to how much lube we use, we have you in mind at every step. It's also important to note that everyone's body and taste is different so everyones experience may not be as great as mine. The answer is going at your own pace and finding what works for you and what feels right and comfortable.
