While finding orgasms can seem like a forlorn quest, frankly. You can easily get lost in the physicality of doing a squat, the awkwardness of direct eye contact, and the simultaneous, seldom comfortable awareness of yourself and your own body. The thing is that riding is not just about getting the rhythm right or trying to ride like people in porn for grown-ups. “Too often, sex wiht penis is used as a dildo for someone’s own benefit, rather than an act that’s committed to pleasure,” Jenkins explains, instead of it being about creating a deep connection with a partner, listening to the messages from your own body, and embracing your own way of receiving pleasure. Whether you are on the cusp of subtle actions that take you to pro level or just trying to hang in there, we’ve got your back.
Because this one position can turn every encounter, whether you’re straddling your favorite vibe, rocking a strap-on or getting down to business with a penis, into a completely different experience. You even have the exceptional power to set the pace, be in charge of the depth, and fix the angle – which essentially are the three big factors when it comes to satisfaction. Plus, you have that front seat to ever so slowly tease your clit as well…. sparking the whole excitement.
But, we get that your mind might be all over the place as you ascend desire’s mountain. You might wonder: How do I hold my hands? Do I look weird walking? My thighs already feel like they are on fire with fatigue. Breathe and relax. So let’s breakdown the best advice on how to ride with ease, pleasure, and flair (by relaying advice from both partners and the sexually-inclined experts).
Put Your Own Pleasure First
Refuse to look for the way 'to do it correctly'; just focus on what feels great. In the process of getting to your G-spot, move your hips, find the right angle, or slide a toy or your fingers down. It is so sexy to watch you take control of your own orgasm, not just eyecandy.
“It’s the sexiest fucking thing to watch her chase her own orgasm — and that’s the attraction of masturbating.”
Going Fast Is Not Always Better
There’s no need to jump like an overenthusiastic gym bunny when bouncing on a trampoline. If anything, slowness and mindfulness — above all, grinding — can be an even more orgasmic experience for all parties concerned. Respond to what your body asks for, instead of what you imagine the encounter to be.
If you’d prefer it be a bit more comfortable (and stimulating), try placing a pillow under your partner’s hips.
The Hips Are Everything
Take my word for it, your legs are not endless. The next one is that it is better and more efficient to use your hips rather then working all with the legs. You can slide back and forth, trace small circles or even press into a gentle squat for deeper penetration. Just yesterday my 2 yo was getting frustrated multiple times throughout the day because he didn’t want to “only do singing” or “not sing at all” because there are so.many.young.ones. Remember to keep it exciting and do it differently if possible!
Bonus tip: Add to the intimacy by leaning in for a kiss every so often, unlocking deeper layers of closeness.
Read the Room (or Their Face)
Those reactions of your partner are the keys to everything. Observe their breathing, facial expressions, and noises. Congratulations if you can feel their grip on the sheets, or their back arching in response to your movements. You're definitely in the right direction, from what I can tell. But if they seem confused or more quiet than usual, it might be time to check in with them.
One straightforward and effective query might be, “Does this feel good?” can go a long way. Communication is sexy, not uncomfortable.
Make Use of Their Hands
Are you enjoying yourself? Have your partner guide his fingers from your waist to your breast or the place you like to be touched. When you include a partner like this, not only does it make it more enjoyable, but it increases the level of intimacy at the same time. The fit is just as stimulating in the flesh.
The eye contact, the skin-to-skin contact, the soft sounds — all make the electric sensation of sex just that much better. Take them with open arms!
Avoid Getting Too High
If you pull off the tip of the surface, you're not too many hundreds of feet above it (or more) until things get hard and unpleasant when re-entering. Instead, go for half-lifts — just enough to maintain a pleasurable rhythm without totally taking a break. If you want the ride to be smoother, add some lube.
Public Service Announcement: This occurs when keels don't alignafter thrusting so relax and take your time.
Give Up Your Insecurities
It is only natural that when you are at the top, you will be more preoccupied with how your body looks and moves, whether you have a weird face, and so on. Shed the anxiety. Your other half is really excited for you to be in that place, and they really enjoy you there, not critically examine you. The most critical thing to keep in mind is to be there. It is more vital to make yourself feel good there than to do something that appears ideal from the outside It’s never too late to change things around. If you need a break, go ahead.
Really. If you feel like you’re not enjoying it or if your thigh muscles are killing you or something, go ahead and change position. You can move to a side, lie back, or simply lie down and hold yourself while sipping water. Sex is a shared experience, not a cold reading performance. To avoid getting tired or bored, how many couples like alternating between cowgirl and other poses, which also helps keep your legs safe. Optional eye contact If the idea of staring into the individual’s eyes as you’re riding seems too lovely to be true, chill. You can always shut your eyes, focus on the sensations, or even glance at a different direction. If you really seem exposed, you may want to try a side-saddle or face-mediation alternative.
As typical, your satisfaction is crucial. Although the reverse cowgirl look appears to be even more daring, it is really more demanding than you think. Until you are completely committed, I would advise you to only do it. CG is amazing is not about pulling things off. It’s all about getting there and enjoying yourself. It’s about forming connections, engaging in fun and, most importantly, giving free rein to your sensual desires. Instead of “performing,” simply allow them to appreciate the uniqueness that is your own.
Think of having sex as more like a jam session than a formal performance; feel where the rhythm takes you, and freestyle through, and most importantly, enjoy the moments of connection.
So liberate yourself. So breathe, sit up really tall, straddle your bae and ride that dick or dildo like you own the place. You can already do it.
