What's really key here is understanding that deepthroating is an act of great mythology. If you’ve ever been aroused by a sultry scene, tangled up in wanton imagination, or even just wanted to take your oral game from pretty good to mind-blowingly holy hell, chances are you’ve thought about how to really get the hymen of the deepthroat. This is your ultimate hands-on guide—a playful, uncensored, and totally approachable manual that makes it super fun to get really good at giving head (and, ahem, super sexy for him to do you too).
Regardless, what is deepthroating, really?
So deepthroating is when you take a penis—whether it's made of silicone or legit flesh and blood—and slide it way deep into your oral and throat cavities, well past where that gag reflex of yours normally goes off like a klaxon, screaming, "Nuh-uh!" And finally, this particular bit of fellatio kung fu, which skyrocketed to infamy following the release of a certain cultural touchstone from the 70s, is much beloved by men who enjoy blowjobs that aren’t just powerful but, let’s face it, also wonderfully messy.
But deepthroating is so much more than a selfless act of sex. There are huge benefits for both the giver (hello surging dopamine levels, anyone?) and the recipient (because, let's face it, they're never going to forget how that feels). It's also the perfect way to add a bit of red hot spice to your sex life, whether your tastes are more power play, spirited foreplay, or just good old fashioned all out naughtiness!
Ready to become their deepest desire by swallowing with your perfectly trained throat? Lets get straight to the fundamentals.
What Makes Deepthroating So Alluring?
And to be completely honest, deepthroating is not at all a novelty; it’s as though it’s the epitome of the oral experience, at least on some level for many. And nothing compares to the snug, wet, and incredibly bombastic sensations that the receiver experiences when deepthroating is practiced. It is a magical moment when the giver can make the receiver lose it (and, hello endorphin rush and facial workout).
And if you’ve ever fantasized about driving your partner mad as you take every last inch of them, you're definitely not the only one. Whether you want to show off your skills, bask in the pleasant messiness, or end up with a throat full of semen, deepthroating is one of the easiest and kinkiest ways to take your oral game to a whole new level.
Deepthroating's (Not-So-Scary) Risks
When you perform that stunt and before you fall on your sword, we need to talk about safety. As long as you're aware of your own limitations deepthroating is mostly safe. In other words, if you start feeling bad, short of breath, or are choking beyond your control, stop, take a break, and don’t push past your limits. It is absolutely important to communicate with your partner and keep the experience sexy, safe, and pleasurable.
Pro tip: Keep the lines of communication open before, during and after, and create a nonverbal "safe gesture," since you'll have your mouth full otherwise! Nothing kills the mood faster than feeling pressured to perform. Take it as a reminder that the most powerful aphrodisiac of all is excited consent.
What Makes Deepthroating Difficult?
“There are two parts to the hard work of deepthroating,” sex educator Sadie Allison tells Bustle: “The mental road block (fear, anxiety, or plain 'just-doesn’t-feel-right' about having a penis diving into your windpipe), and the potentially nauseating reflex of your gag reflex (the automatic spasm in the throat).
If you are not one of the lucky third of the population that is immune to these reflexes, you will have to train your body and your mind to control them. The encouraging news? With patience, regular practice and maybe even a few fun toys, you can totally do this.
Three Tricks to Get Rid of Your Gag Reflex
The Toothbrush Technique
Obtain a fresh toothbrush. Gently place it on the base of your tongue until you feel your gag reflex kicking in. Hold it back there as long as you can without really gagging. Breathe, chill out and do it again. You'll notice, as you continue to do this, you can push it back and back and hold it for longer periods.
Pro Tip Hopefully, those tips can help out Billy-Says-Goodbye-Gift-Coworker, and you can also maybe even stay with us until the end of the post!NewProp Tip 1: Make sure to purify your toothbrush each time you brush, and get to blowing daily.Newtop Tip 2: Add a little flavored lube to make it extra special!
The Secret of the Fatal Pressure Point
When you're nervous or you start to feel your gag reflex kicking in, this dentist-endorsed life hack will help put you at easeHandle your left thumb in your left fist938# For the best results, use a toothbrush or dildo with this trick.
The Toy (or Dildo) Method
Choose a dildo that matches the girth of your partner as training wheels. Lube it up, stick it to a wall or a shower with the suction cup, and ease yourself down on it to whatever feels good to you. When your gag reflex triggers, just freeze, take a deep breath, and breathe out. Eventually you can train your body and mind to be calm when this happens.
Five Additional Training Tips for Gag Reflex Control
Practice in the dark: You’re simply less sensitive to the gag when it’s dark outside.
The more the better when it comes to lubrication, it increases comfortability and ease.
Consistency is key: Practice every day for real progress.
Try to simply hold, not choke; it’s better to stimulate the reflex than to make yourself gag.
Pay attention to your breath: Deep, quick breaths at this crucial juncture can help to relax the muscles of the throat.
Are You Ready for the Real Thing? How to Prepare to Thrill Your Lover
Interact
Ahead of your pursuit of pleasure, have a talk with your partner. Make them know that you have limits and that you can leave at anytime. Discove a safe signal — a hand sign, a squeeze, or, if they refuse to listen to you, a little nip.
Relax
Concentrate on relaxing the muscles of the face and jaw.When your gag reflex triggers, just freeze, take a deep breath, and breathe out.erstanding that deepthroating is an act of great mythology. If you’ve ever been aroused by a sultry scene, tangled up in wanton imagination, or even just wanted to take your oral game from pretty good to mind-blowingly holy hell, chances are you’ve thought about how to really get the hymen of the deepthroat. This is your ultimate hands-on guide—a playful, uncensored, and totally approachable manual that makes it super fun to get really good at giving head (and, ahem, super sexy for him to do you too).
Regardless, what is deepthroating, really?
So deepthroating is when you take a penis—whether it's made of silicone or legit flesh and blood—and slide it way deep into your oral and throat cavities, well past where that gag reflex of yours normally goes off like a klaxon, screaming, "Nuh-uh!" And finally, this particular bit of fellatio kung fu, which skyrocketed to infamy following the release of a certain cultural touchstone from the 70s, is much beloved by men who enjoy blowjobs that aren’t just powerful but, let’s face it, also wonderfully messy.
But deepthroating is so much more than a selfless act of sex. There are huge benefits for both the giver (hello surging dopamine levels, anyone?) and the recipient (because, let's face it, they're never going to forget how that feels). It's also the perfect way to add a bit of red hot spice to your sex life, whether your tastes are more power play, spirited foreplay, or just good old fashioned all out naughtiness!
Ready to become their deepest desire by swallowing with your perfectly trained throat? Lets get straight to the fundamentals.
What Makes Deepthroating So Alluring?
And to be completely honest, deepthroating is not at all a novelty; it’s as though it’s the epitome of the oral experience, at least on some level for many. And nothing compares to the snug, wet, and incredibly bombastic sensations that the receiver experiences when deepthroating is practiced. It is a magical moment when the giver can make the receiver lose it (and, hello endorphin rush and facial workout).
And if you’ve ever fantasized about driving your partner mad as you take every last inch of them, you're definitely not the only one. Whether you want to show off your skills, bask in the pleasant messiness, or end up with a throat full of semen, deepthroating is one of the easiest and kinkiest ways to take your oral game to a whole new level.
Deepthroating's (Not-So-Scary) Risks
When you perform that stunt and before you fall on your sword, we need to talk about safety. As long as you're aware of your own limitations deepthroating is mostly safe. In other words, if you start feeling bad, short of breath, or are choking beyond your control, stop, take a break, and don’t push past your limits. It is absolutely important to communicate with your partner and keep the experience sexy, safe, and pleasurable.
Pro tip: Keep the lines of communication open before, during and after, and create a nonverbal "safe gesture," since you'll have your mouth full otherwise! Nothing kills the mood faster than feeling pressured to perform. Take it as a reminder that the most powerful aphrodisiac of all is excited consent.
What Makes Deepthroating Difficult?
“There are two parts to the hard work of deepthroating,” sex educator Sadie Allison tells Bustle: “The mental road block (fear, anxiety, or plain 'just-doesn’t-feel-right' about having a penis diving into your windpipe), and the potentially nauseating reflex of your gag reflex (the automatic spasm in the throat).
If you are not one of the lucky third of the population that is immune to these reflexes, you will have to train your body and your mind to control them. The encouraging news? With patience, regular practice and maybe even a few fun toys, you can totally do this.
Three Tricks to Get Rid of Your Gag Reflex
The Toothbrush Technique
Obtain a fresh toothbrush. Gently place it on the base of your tongue until you feel your gag reflex kicking in. Hold it back there as long as you can without really gagging. Breathe, chill out and do it again. You'll notice, as you continue to do this, you can push it back and back and hold it for longer periods.
Pro Tip Hopefully, those tips can help out Billy-Says-Goodbye-Gift-Coworker, and you can also maybe even stay with us until the end of the post!NewProp Tip 1: Make sure to purify your toothbrush each time you brush, and get to blowing daily.Newtop Tip 2: Add a little flavored lube to make it extra special!
The Secret of the Fatal Pressure Point
When you're nervous or you start to feel your gag reflex kicking in, this dentist-endorsed life hack will help put you at easeHandle your left thumb in your left fist938# For the best results, use a toothbrush or dildo with this trick.
The Toy (or Dildo) Method
Choose a dildo that matches the girth of your partner as training wheels. Lube it up, stick it to a wall or a shower with the suction cup, and ease yourself down on it to whatever feels good to you. When your gag reflex triggers, just freeze, take a deep breath, and breathe out. Eventually you can train your body and mind to be calm when this happens.
Five Additional Training Tips for Gag Reflex Control
Practice in the dark: You’re simply less sensitive to the gag when it’s dark outside.
The more the better when it comes to lubrication, it increases comfortability and ease.
Consistency is key: Practice every day for real progress.
Try to simply hold, not choke; it’s better to stimulate the reflex than to make yourself gag.
Pay attention to your breath: Deep, quick breaths at this crucial juncture can help to relax the muscles of the throat.
Are You Ready for the Real Thing? How to Prepare to Thrill Your Lover
Interact
Ahead of your pursuit of pleasure, have a talk with your partner. Make them know that you have limits and that you can leave at anytime. Discove a safe signal — a hand sign, a squeeze, or, if they refuse to listen to you, a little nip.
Relax
Concentrate on relaxing the muscles of the face and jaw. Singing, groaning, or humming can help you to relax. Relaxing the mouth and you will receive a more enriched, smoother experience.
The Best Positions for Deepthroating (That Work)
The Boss’ Chair: You kneel between your partner’s legs as they sit down and spread their legs. This arrangement gives you full control of how deep and how fast, and is perfect if you're new to this or want to pleasure your partner in a coy and teasing way.
Sixty-Nine (Over & Under): Be on top, straddling your partner’s face when they’re lying on their back. The angle of their cock makes it perfect to deep throat, the curve fits great into your mouth and throat. You might even want to add a few teasing touches with your hands also.
The Table Surfer: Lie on your back with your head hanging just over the edge of a table or couch. As your partner stands and guides themselves into your mouth, gravity helps to angle your throat for deeper entry. You can also control the depth by pushing against their thighs.
Getting the Hang of Breathing
Go to your breath: Breathe in deeply as you take them in, and breathe out as you pull back.
Use your nose-breathe: Reserve this one if you need a break to catch your breath between thrusts or while transitioning.
Year of the Hugs Take breaks: You're allowed to stop and give your partner a soft hand hug every now and then.
Keep playing with the 3 methods until you find your groove.
Ten Deepthroating Techniques You Must Try
So are you ready to make the move from “fine” to flawless”? Stratagems when you want to rock his world:
Mr Thick Dick Lubrication Master: Use plenty of water based lube for a slick and slippery feel.
The Ball Lick: Get extra points by suckling on his balls as you deepthroat him.
The Couch Gagger: If you are up for it, gag a bit; the convulsions in your throat can be amazing.
The Ball Vibe: While you deepthroat, use a bullet vibrator on his balls for an extra layer of delight.
Ring Gag: Add in a ring gag for insanely messy, involuntary drooling and the feeling of being really, really subservient.
Having sex? The Perineum Press: press softly behind his balls for extra pleasure.
The Shaft Grab: As you slalom down, take his cock by the base, a little pressure can really up the ante.
The Cock Ring Deepthroat: A hands free deepthroat with a challenge, Try deepthroating while wearing a cock ring!
P-Spot Press: With his consent, stimulate his prostate with a well-lubed finger for a next-level O.
The Throat Cum Want to get extreme about this one, and if you feel comfortable take him all the way down your throat as he cums for a gnarly finish.
Breaking Through Mental Barriers (and Cum Aversion)
Like, let's be real: Most people don't like, don't get pleasure from, or even hate swallowing cum, and that's AOK. If you want to know how to swallow without tasting it, deepthroating is definitely your friend. Just work down his shaft until you are completely on and take a deep breath and catch yourself and hold that sucker there until he blows his load. This way, you have nothing to taste.
Still feeling apprehensive? To adjust the taste, you can have him eat pineapple and drink plenty of water, or experiment with flavored lubes. It gets easier, the more relaxed and chilled out you are (I promise).
Deepthroating in power play and in BDSM
In many ways, deepthroating is a power play that fits perfectly with D/s protocol. For safety reasons it's important to set up clear signals and signals, especially if you're binding someone, or preventing someone else's mobility. When training, start off with flexible, softer dildos and proceed as soon as both partners are ready.
So become the ultimate deepthroating rock star, girl.
With the right attitude, plenty of patience and consistent practice (plus a bit of bold courage), you can definitely learn how to deepthroat like a pro. Bear in mind that the only thing that really matters is that you and your partner both have fun, not the perfect acrobatics in bed. Have conversations, hone your craft, and don’t judge a little mess.
So now grab your favorite toy, lube it up, and show them just why your oral skills are so highly recommended. Here’s to the time-honored art of deepthroating!
